What are your good at?
Do you actually know what you are good at, not just what your boss says you are good at? Don’t worry if you don’t, most people have never considered it. I’ve blogged about this before but I would strongly recommend trying out Strengths Finder 2.0. It was a book and tool that really helped me identify what it was that I was good at. Now it’s not ground-breaking and it’s not likely to come as a complete surprise but it does help you focus and articulate your strengths. This is great when being asked in job interviews but more fundamentally than this, it will help you decide what job you should be doing.
Now ask yourself, how often do you use these strengths? You should be using your strengths for 80% of your day and only focusing on improving your weaknesses for the remaining 20%. Too much time is spent improving on our weaker areas and not making use of our assets. If you’ve got it – flaunt it! Think how much less of a struggle each day would be if you were naturally good at your job!
What do other people think of you?
What do you think other people think of you? What five words would they use to describe you? Are you ok with this? Or do you want people to see you in a different light?
If you’re like me, different people will have different impressions of you and will see you differently. Sometimes this is a benefit and deliberate but sometimes this is down to old information. As you get older, you change and ironically it’s often those people that know you the longest, that have the most inaccurate view of you.
How do you want people to think of you? What five words you want them to use to describe you? Why do you think they don’t already use those words?
What do you think of you?
Do you like yourself? Do you consider yourself to be happy? What bits of you are you most proud of? I’m not talking physical, although feel free to consider that! I’m asking you to think more about what interactions you have that you particularly look forward to? What things do you do that make you smile?
What would you do if money were no object?
And finally, if you had a month out of your current life, that no-one knew about, that you would never have to explain, and money was no object. What would you do? It doesn’t have to be what the people around you would think as ‘exciting’ or ‘worthwhile’, what would you actually want to do with your time if no one was there to judge?
Make a plan, it’s your life and in your control. You and only you can make something happen.
No more ifs or buts.